Tributes

 
 
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In Loving Memory of Josephine

‘Josephine was one of those people who was unmistakably moral, honest, serious, friendly, kind, loving, resilient, extremely clever, speaking with no malice. She had a great ability for a sense of proportion and patience and adapted to people's limitations comfortably. She was hard-working, original, with a sensible feeling for priorities. At The Refugee Therapy Centre we often speak her name, as we have beautiful memories. Josephine was much loved and highly respected at the Refugee Therapy Centre.

Josephine was a safe and sound person, a brilliant therapist and supervisor, academic and friend, always able to share with warmth and genuine human contact with those who came into her sphere. She was able to see both negative and positive in people and hoped for better in most difficult situations.’ Aida Alayarian

 
 
 
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In Loving Memory of Dorothy

‘Not only were you inspiring but everything you shared was offered with such gentleness and humility. You could have talked for hours and we were all mesmerised and taken by your beautiful nature and wealth of experience.’ Ahlam Mirzai

I will always remember her calming nature and bright smile and will carry will me all that she has taught me, not only about our work but also about compassion, empathy and relating to others.’ Enisa Nura

‘Dorothy reached the hearts and minds of so many, and her legacy lives on.’ Nerma Biscevic

I loved the way you dressed and matched colours, from head to toe. I still see you in shades of purple and blue.’ Marie-Jose

‘I remember Dorothy's smile, her thoughtfulness and her warmth and loving manner of relating to others, indeed her gentle spirit which is with us and warms our days. I think of her helping hand that was always ready to aid as she could. Her gentle beautiful voice that was always raised in praise, and her wise and positive words; her thoughts left me memories that I am proud to own forever in my heart.’ Aida Alayarian

 
 
 
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In Loving Memory of Eric

‘Before becoming a Patron of the Refugee Therapy Centre, Eric was a Trustee, and he played an important role in founding the centre two decades ago. His respect for humanity and commitment to equality and human rights meant he was committed to providing a safe space in which people can rediscover their abilities and rebuild their confidence to be active members of the community. Eric was able to see the positive in people and situations, and was good company. He could be full of fun - making jokes about cycling in busy London. He was also very kind; I recall his enthusiasm when he showed me the garden at his home in Hampstead, we remember him with respect and fondness.’ Aida Alayarian

 

In Loving Memory of John

‘John Denford, a psychiatrist and psychoanalyst was worked in the NHS for most of his professional life; mainly in Cassel Hospital where he succeeded Dr Tom Main as Medical Director. He was influential in the training of psychiatric nurses and social workers. He for couple of years becomes Medical Director of the Medical Foundation for the care of Torture Victims, and become a Trustee of the Refugee Therapy Centre since its inception in 1999.

John was an amazingly safe and sound person to work with. He has special gift of making everyone at ease in his present. He of course was a brilliant therapist and supervisor, able to share with warmth. He was able to see both negative and positive in people and hoped for better in most difficult situations, always put more emphasis on positive. He will always remain unique and special in my heart and I am sure as well in heart of many. His kindness, his ability for empathy, his deep sense of responsibility and his commitments were wonderful quality that I learned and I hope I can keep. He cared deeply for his wife, his daughters and granddaughters that I have pleasures to meet and work with his beloved daughter Cathy Denford who made a film about the Centre’s work with destitute asylum seekers; and I also work with John’s granddaughter Jessica, another talented artist in the family. John also cared deeply for people less fortunate, for homeless, for asylum seekers and refugees, for black and other ethnic and sexual minorities who may have been marginalized due to the colour of their skin, their ethnicity, their class, their sexuality; the list can go on. I think of John helping hand that was always ready to aid as he could, and his unassuming positive words; his thoughts left memories that I am proud to own forever in my heart. John wrote a paper about journey of leaving home in 2004 Denford J. Going Away, for the Refugee Therapy Centre special addition of Self & Society, Vol. 32, No, 5, point towards people and their attachments to places.’ Aida Alayarian